Why are more young people becoming “relationship anarchists”?

In the case of anarchists in a relationship, there is no order between their connections – partners, friends, neighbors, and colleagues – all are considered the same. They treat all relationships equally, believing that each relationship, whether romantic or platonic, is “like or identical possible of emotional, physical or mental intimacy, love, and satisfaction.” No one is given priority over others.

While the disorder of relations may seem to reflect polyamory, there is a fundamental distinction. As Lavvynder calls it, some Poli people apply hierarchies to their relationships. A potentially politic relationship anarchists will not have a more romantic partner than anyone else. “We don’t create rules about relationships with others. We’re just focusing on connecting with others.”

One misconception about the anarchists of relationships is that they perfected the dynamics of relationships, but it couldn’t be far from the truth, adds Lavvynder.

“A lot of people will tell me, ‘Oh, I wish I could be a polymer or an anarchist in a relationship, but I just get too jealous.” And I’m not jealous either. “In fact, that’s really hard.”

Sam, a 33-year-old music license manager in Los Angeles, equates with gender fluids as it’s all about shared values, not sexual exclusiveness. The disorder in relations pushed her to rethink how she defined the connection. “Everyone is taught the rules at a young age. One person in your life is meant to be everything you do,” she says, comparing it to “the romance of Disney’s fairy tale, and “a deviation from it is a crime that cannot be repaired.” People will feel more fulfilled in the relationship, she says, “if they were able to prioritize others based on what they actually wanted and what they thought they were expecting.”

Sam came to recognize him after the breakup. She was a “newly out as a strange person,” a non-syllable beginner and in a relationship that encourages her quest for sexual identity. She and her former member of her were “swingers,” but Sam says she is “deeply uncomfortable and unfulfilled” by her “casual and often dissatisfied” sexual experiences. When the relationship ended, she jumped into the polyamory scene in Los Angeles, where she later learned about the disorder of the relationship.

Jose Esteban Munoz, Indiana Cruising Utopia: At the time of Queer Futuritysuggests, “eccentricity is a structural, educated mode of hope that can be seen and felt beyond the current quagmire.” It is not surprising that young people who identify with LGBTQIA+ and practice ethical noncongregationalism find that the disorder of relations is for them.

“We’re already pushing so many social norms, and we’re here,” says Lavvynder.